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Love and Respect: For Women

それでは男性のニードは何か、、、これまた日米の文化の違いも若干見られるかも知れないが、納得できるものが多いような気がする.... 以下参照。
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Conquest: A man feels respect when you appreciate his pursuits and desires to achieve and work when...
* You tell him thank you for going to work.
* Cheer his successes in sports and work or whatever. If wives don't cheer their husbands' successes will they be there when their husbands fail?
* Let your husbands dream.

Hierarchy
: A man feels you are appreciating his position as overseer or his desire to protect and provide and even die for you when...
* You look up to him for feeling responsible for you.
* Tell him you are deeply touched by the thought that he would die for you.
* Praise his commitment to bring home the bacon.

Authority: A man feels you are appreciating his power on your behalf meaning his desire to be strong and to lead and to make decisions and therefore feels respected when...
* You tell him he is strong.
* You praise his good decisions and minimize your criticism of the poor ones.
* You honor his authority in front of the kids and differ in private.

Insight: A man feels you appreciate his perspective and proposals or his to analyze and counsel and therefore feels respected when...
* You thank him for his advice and knowledge.
* You don't say, "You are always trying to fix me."
* You let him fix things and applaud his solution orientation.
* Concern about all of the male bashing. Don't do it.
* Tell him up front you need an ear to listen and not a solution, which shows him you value his ability to listen and you aren’t making him guess what you want.

Relationship
: A man feels you are appreciating and valuing his partnership and his pastimes or his desire for a shoulder to shoulder friendship and thus feels respected when…
* You tell him you like him.
* You are friendly in the home. "I know you love me, but I don't think that you like me." Sarah was negative. She was out to change everyone. “Were you successful in changing everyone to be like you?” versus “ How successful were you at becoming more like me?”
* You do recreational activities with him or watch him do them.
* You do things with your husband without always talking about the children".
* You talk to him about his dreams.
* You get together and do not talk at all.
* You encourage time alone for him. It energizes him to reconnect with you later.

Sexuality: A man feels respected when he knows you appreciate his passions and his pleasure, namely his sexual desires and he feels respected when…
* You initiate periodically. He love it.
* You respond positively more often.
* You don’t push him away. After all, you want him to have eyes for you only.
* You look your best for him, and not just when you go out with friends.
* You let him acknowledge his temptations without shaming him or making him feel shamed.

Women may not realize a man can have a need that they don’t. The devil does everything he can to get us together before marriage and everything he can to separate us after marriage.

What about your sons? How do you want your future daughter-in-laws to treat your sons?

by beta-endorphin | 2006-11-06 13:11 | Great books